People are Gorgeous Wells of Inspiration

By February 4, 2013Entrepreneurship & Mind Set
Smiling Children

I met someone recently who moved me, genuinely. I was surprised, taken aback, walked around them for a while, not sure what to think, but onwards I went and regret it I did not. What I learned was beautiful; the realization that came with it has been profound.

Before I go on about all that, I want to ask you:

What is your greatest inspiration?

Do you have many?

Do you find yourself staring at the clouds, finding patterns, seeking cohesive shapes that move you emotionally, that inspire you?

Do you have a child whose smiles, laughter lights up your heart unlike anything else?

Does a particular project or endeavour make you joyous for the potential of humanity?

I have many such things, but what I’ve realized after this meeting is that what moves me beyond almost anything else – in a consistent way – is the beauty, resilience and generosity of people.

No matter what happens, who they are, what they say or do, seeing their beauty is always better than seeing their failures and frailties.

I’m in the business of manifesting people’s ideas into reality.

I’m in the business of seeing the broken, ineffective and incorrect in their work.

I’m wired to see everything that’s NOT it.

So I had to work around that natural tendency and pause, look at people and reflect on their genuine beauty. There is a lot of it. There is a lot of patience, love and softness in the world.

There is far more of that than we can imagine, if we approach people correctly, with love, with compassion and understanding.

And if we want to get anywhere in the world, we need to learn to accept and embrace the different people in the world, the way they think, act and appear to us.

Back to the story.

A person I would have probably discounted in the past, someone incredibly vulnerable and honest – almost to a fault – sauntered into my life, and smiling in a hot pink hat, came clean about having “admired me” for quite some time.

I was genuinely surprised – as I always am when people use the words “you” and “admire” in the same sentence regarding me.

“Me? You admire me?”

Seemed not a fluke. The answer “Yyyyeah!” tumbled out.

I thought about myself. Was I ever capable of saying this to someone I had just physically met? The answer is generally “NO! I’m too shy!”

But the absolute surrendering of this individual to their truth, was amazing. I watched them saunter around in my life for some days, enjoying the absolute mental incongruity of this individual, that somehow worked.

Get out of character, out of script. Just go!

I assure you it wasn’t the flattery; it was the honesty that got me.

“What can I learn from all this, Kat?” I said to myself. “Where do you see vulnerability as a weakness?” “Where can you not do it yourself?”

That is the inquiry I’m currently in, around my business, around my clients, my friends.

The inspiration I’ve gleamed from this interaction has been truly beautiful and surprising. It’s inspired me endlessly, and one of the reasons has been amazing:

If honesty and vulnerability got ME so much, how can it ever be a weakness?

It can’t.

It’s hugely inspiring.

Give it a go.

  • Jennifer

    I’m so loving the simplicity with which you see all things, all people… after being trained to analyse.

    I, also, was trained to see flaws. In ballet, physical perfection was beauty. Soul was a bonus. It’s ingrained.. I still love the hard reality of it, but later on, with modern dance, kinesiology studies and yoga I learned about organic posture and movement, how it came from a deeper place, how ‘pedestrian’ human quality was not only allowed, but indulged in, and how ‘beauty’ could be anything from plain to obscure to grotesque – it was all actually beautiful because it was the human form in a variety of ways and states.

    When I trained in Pilates, I was again asked to scrutinise the body in front of me and find ‘postural discrepencies’, ‘weaknesses’ and ‘misalignments’.

    After teaching ‘real people’ for a while I soon understood that focusing on the negative was counter-productive, and I changed my language with the people who were in my care.

    Although it’s our job to see the flaws in order to fix or improve the situation, it is so much more rewarding (and win-win in all ways) to focus on what’s ‘honest’, ‘vulnerable’ and ‘unique’, with encouragement and words that aim to inspire.

    This is venturing down the pathway I’m going to explore in your course, no doubt! Being inspired by, and helping to bring out in someone, their unique and natural beauty. So glad I’m here! x

    • Kat Tepelyan

      So beautifully written. Thank you for that.

      It’s incredibly empowering to be able to sidestep the “perfection” eye and just see the simple, amazing perfection of the one before you.

      So glad to have you! xo

  • Beautiful post and comment. Thank you <3

  • Maria-Stella

    It is testament to how you inspire others by being your most authentic self! Maintaining closeness and authenticity, in the face of judgement, critique and potential rejection, is nothing short of revolutionary.

    We have to put aside our socially ingrained need to “look good” and be accepted. Even more revolutionary is this post. Our society values so much keeping a cool facade, apathy and interpersonal distance, that anything more real, human and stinky is just “too much”.

    It takes courage to be ones true self around others. And considering how difficult it is to be confronted with the naked, authentic reality of our own connectedness other, I’d say the evolution we struggle with the most is being on the receiving end of this vulnerability. We have a hard time accepting others, and resisting the reflex to critique and judge.

    So I read this post with great joy, that you published your thoughts and can inspire both sides of the authenticity dance!

  • Hi Kat, i can hear you read this post aloud….and i love it.
    Inspiring and so very nakedly honest.
    I really admire that in you, your writing

    Thank you for sharing the story girl. you rock!

    Alohaaaaai

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